Stand Again's Books
Over one hundred coercive control tactics
This book is a detailed taxonomy of coercive control tactics, patterns of tactic deployment, and models that explain how abusive relationships are created and maintained.
The taxonomy, examples, and analytic guidance are drawn from the author's lived experience of over a decade within an abusive relationship, and from support work with male survivors of intimate partner violence.
Your son is trapped in a controlling relationship.
You've tried talking to him. Tried pointing out what you see. Nothing works. Everything you do seems to push him further away.
Reaching Him is the first book written specifically for families of male victims of coercive control. It gives you:
- Why he can't see it
- How to stay connected
- What to say
- How to sustain yourself
Abuse doesn’t just wound your body or your confidence - it cuts you off from your own emotions.
Many men walk away from family violence feeling numb, disconnected, or convinced that being “cold” is the only way to stay safe.
This short book is a lived-experience guide to finding your way back
Stand Again's YouTube
This podcasts explores the hidden dynamics of abuse — how it functions, why it persists, and what it does to the person on the receiving end.
Learn about the specific abuse tactics men experience in toxic or coercive relationships.
This is my personal story as a male survivor of family violence - told across multiple episodes.
Articles
Exploration of the experience of male DFV, from guides on how to manage your emotions, dating post abuse, parental alienation, false allegations, tools to survive abuse, and so much more.
Recommended Watch List
For men experiencing family violence:
These creators specialise in emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, and trauma recovery. They're direct, validating, and helpful for men trying to make sense of what happened:
- Richard Grannon – Raw, sharp, and psychological — great for understanding toxic dynamics.
- Danish Bashir – Explains narcissism and control tactics clearly, often with humour.
- Dr Ramani Durvasula – Clinical psychologist known for her work on narcissistic abuse.
- Danielle Radin – Trauma educator who speaks calmly and directly to survivors.
- Darren F Magee – Insightful and calm content on narcissism and emotional manipulation.
- Elizabeth Shaw – Focused on self-trust, trauma bonds, and post-abuse clarity.
For men seeking healthier relationship dynamics:
These creators speak to emotional intelligence, dating after trauma, and building healthier relational habits. They’re ideal for men starting to re-engage with connection:
- Matthew Hussey – Relationship coach with practical dating advice that doesn’t play games.
- Emily W King – Talks about secure attachment, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships.
- The Dadvocate - Provides perspectives on fatherhood and aims to bridge understanding between genders
Recommended Reading List
Here’s a curated list of influential authors and books that have informed the content and philosophy of this website:
On male victims of family and domestic violence:
- Abused Men: The Hidden Side of Domestic Violence - Philip W. Cook
- Breaking the Silence: A Practical Guide for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse - Elizabeth M. Celi
- Domestic Violence Against Men and Boys: Experiences of Male Victims of Intimate Partner Violence - Elizabeth A. Bates & Julie C. Taylor
- Break the Silence: A Support Guide for Male Victims of Domestic Abuse - Lee Marks
- It Does Happen to Men: A Diary of Abuse by a Male Survivor - James Mackie
- She Beat My Ass: One Husband's Story of Surviving Domestic Abuse - Travis Rosenberg
Other related texts that inform the content of this website:
- Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving - Pete Walker
- The Body Keeps the Score - Bessel van der Kolk
- When the Body Says No - Gabor Maté
- I Don’t Want to Talk About It - Terry Real
- Set Boundaries, Find Peace - Nedra Glover Tawwab
- The Dance of Anger - Harriet Lerner
- How to Be an Adult in Relationships - David Richo
- The Will to Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love - Bell Hooks
- Mating in Captivity - Esther Perel
- The Betrayal Bond - Patrick Carnes
- Healing the Shame That Binds You - John Bradshaw
- The Whole-Brain Child - Dan Siegel
- What Happened to You? - Bruce D. Perry & Oprah Winfrey
- Trauma and Recovery - Judith Herman
- Living and Loving After Betrayal - Steven Stosny
- Emotional Blackmail - Susan Forward
- Getting Relationships Right - Melanie Joy
Advocacy Product Range
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