Reaching Him

Guidance for Families and Friends of Men Lost in an Abusive Relationship

Your son is trapped in a controlling relationship.

You've tried talking to him. Tried pointing out what you see. Nothing works. Everything you do seems to push him further away.

You're not imagining it. And you're not powerless.

Reaching Him is the first book written specifically for families of male victims of coercive control. It gives you:

Why he can't see what's happening
How to stay connected and not push him further into her arms
What to say, and what to avoid
Stage-by-stage guidance from deep entrapment through crisis and recovery
How to sustain yourself

Written by a survivor who spent a decade in the same patterns your son is living through.

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Reconnecting With Your Feelings After Abuse

How Abuse Hijacks Your Emotional Processing and How to Retrain and Reconnect to Your Healthy Feelings

Abuse doesn’t just wound your body or your confidence - it cuts you off from your own emotions.

Many men walk away from family violence feeling numb, disconnected, or convinced that being “cold” is the only way to stay safe.

This short book is a lived-experience guide to finding your way back. In it, you’ll learn:

Why emotional disconnection happens after abuse.
How to understand the signals your body and mind are giving you.
Practical tools to slowly rebuild presence, joy, and authenticity.

It’s not theory. It’s the steps I wish I had when I was at rock bottom.

If you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know how to feel anymore,” this book was written for you.

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Blueprint of Family Violence Against Men

Learn about the specific abuse tactics men experience in toxic or coercive relationships.

This playlist breaks down each tactic from the Blueprint of Family Violence Against Men, giving you clear language, insight, and validation.

Abuse against men is often invisible — minimised, misunderstood, or completely denied.

This playlist introduces the truth on the coercive control tactics designed specifically for men to understand how abuse works

You don’t need to have it all figured out. But once you can name it — you can plan your way out.

Stand Again YouTube Channel

Sometimes you need more than words on a page — you need to hear it spoken, laid out clearly, step by step. The Stand Again YouTube channel is built from lived experience, turning the Blueprint of Family Violence Against Men into practical, easy-to-follow episodes.

You’ll find:

Deep dives into the tactics of abuse and how they really work.
Guidance for surviving the hardest days, including legal battles and false accusations.
Tools for recovery and rebuilding presence after coercive control.

Every video is designed to help you name what’s happening, find clarity, and take one step closer to standing again.

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Recommended Watch List

For men experiencing family violence:

These creators specialise in emotional abuse, narcissistic relationships, and trauma recovery. They're direct, validating, and helpful for men trying to make sense of what happened:

Dr Ramani Durvasula – Clinical psychologist known for her work on narcissistic abuse.
Danielle Radin – Trauma educator who speaks calmly and directly to survivors.
Richard Grannon – Raw, sharp, and psychological — great for understanding toxic dynamics.
Danish Bashir – Explains narcissism and control tactics clearly, often with humour.
Darren F Magee – Insightful and calm content on narcissism and emotional manipulation.
Elizabeth Shaw – Focused on self-trust, trauma bonds, and post-abuse clarity.

For men seeking healthier relationship dynamics:

These creators speak to emotional intelligence, dating after trauma, and building healthier relational habits. They’re ideal for men starting to re-engage with connection:

Matthew Hussey – Relationship coach with practical dating advice that doesn’t play games.
Emily W King – Talks about secure attachment, boundaries, and self-awareness in relationships.
The Dadvocate - Provides perspectives on fatherhood and aims to bridge understanding between genders